January 29, 2012   1,277 notes

Have I ever had “ANY unwanted/undesired physical or sexual contact”?

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thebaddominicana:

Earlier in this pregnancy, I filled out my “Initial Health History” form for prenatal and birth care. You know: check the box if you’ve experienced severe headaches, diabetes, all sorts of things. After the usual “Emotional abuse,” “Physical abuse,” “Sexual abuse,” I got to this very interesting item: ”ANY unwanted/undesired physical or sexual contact.”

read the link. so spot on.

[trigger warning LIKE WHOA at the link for rape culture, coercion, and general unwanted attention]

Because I can hardly stand the thought of these constant erosions of personhood seeming normal to our daughters and sons.

READ THIS

Moving and important.

I tried to explain all this to husband once and unfortunately he didn’t get it. I don’t understand why this is so difficult for cisgender men to get but hopefully this article can explain it better. This is still rape culture, even if you’re lucky enough to not have been raped. 

I had to stop reading this for a second because I started to realize how long my own list of these advances was.

This happens to me so much. It’s usually not overtly sexual, but I mean. Even tonight, for chrissakes, I was hostessing to fill in for a call-off, and so I was actually dressed up/makeup-ed up for once, and some creepy, skeevy old dude comes up behind me, brushes past my back, touches my shoulder and says “I was watching you and just needed to tell you that you look so beautiful.” Ok, Sting. I don’t even have a comment for the levels of invasion that comment encompasses.This kind of shit happens at least weekly, and I never even mention it, like it’s an afterthought. If I thought too hard about how disgusting the motives of these people really are? I would definitely be scarred for life.

(Source: manifestfreedom)

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